The Health Happiness Wealth Guide

I love how Abraham-Hicks talk about getting on with people you don’t like or you’re having a hard time with. They say it’s simple: just look for the aspects of them that you like or can appreciate and focus only on those aspects.

It May Be Hard Work

I have my biggest smile, of humour and of acknowledgement, when they say that, in the privacy of your own mind you may have to work very hard to do it, it may be an effort for you, maybe you’ll even have to wait until that other person is sleeping before you’ll be able to find something you like about them to focus on.

You Get What You Focus On

However you do it, it is so worth practising as much as you can when you are not with them. When you are with them, their flaws are the thing most obvious to you and will probably take up most of your attention and hold your focus. As long as their qualities that you don’t like are the focus of your attention, that is what you are going to elicit more of through Law of Attraction.

5 Steps To Smoothing Out Difficult Relationships:

1. Out of all the many qualities you have seen in them, find the one or two qualities that you do like about them (at least one or two, but use more if you can find more),
2. Then, when you are not with them, spend a lot of time practising thinking of those pleasing qualities so that when you think of this person, you’ll automatically associate your feeling of appreciation of these good qualities with that person.
3. While you can’t create in the reality of another person, as long as you hold this positive attitude about them, that can be the only rendezvous point that you have with them.
   • If their mood and behaviour match the attitude you have of them, Law of Attraction will bring them to you and you will find their company pleasant, or even enjoyable!
   • If their their mood or behaviour are not a match to the positive attitude you have of them, Law of Attraction will keep them away from you.
   • Either way, it will be a better relationship and you will find it easier to feel good and keep feeling good in relation to this person.
4. Remember though that it’s not just “positive thinking” about the other person while feeling angry or disappointed or resentful about them. It’s about genuinely only thinking about things you do feel appreciation for in them and really feeling the emotion of that so that your vibration is positive in relation to this person. It is the vibration that Law of Attraction responds to.
5. If you’re having trouble letting go of the difficult feelings of unforgiveness, resentment, blame and others, I recommend working through some of the Brad Yates videos to help clear the blocks.

Wishing you free and happy relationships!